Let’s say you’re called in for an interview about a job.
Leading up to the day of the interview, you slowly feel your anxiety rising.
You don’t wanna blow this one!
To get some much-needed advice and calm, you call your friend, Buddy.
You: Hey Buddy! I have this job interview coming up in a few days, and I’m starting to get REALLY nervous.
Buddy: I understand. But the job interview is in the future. That means you don’t have a problem right now. The nervousness you’re feeling is because you’re not present. Try shifting your perspective from the future to the present.
You: Aaaah, you’re right. I already feel a ton of weight lifted off my shoulders. But the job interview is going to take place very soon. What should I do? I really want them to hire me!
Buddy: Whether they decide to hire you or not, is not within your control. That’s their decision. Instead, you need to focus on what you can control.
You: And what’s that?
Buddy: That could be things like making sure you’re well dressed, that you’ve practiced answers for tough questions, and that you’ve read about their company. Prepare as much as possible. But focus only on the things you can control.
You: And what’s that exactly?
Buddy: Your thoughts and actions.
You: Wow, that’s great advice! I’ll get right to it! Thanks, Buddy.
As always, Buddy provides you with much-needed clarity and calm.
So, leading up to the interview, you start preparing.
You get a haircut, rehearse your answers, read about the company, etc.
And the day has finally arrived, the job interview is today…